Signs That my Grief is Still Raw

Thinking terrible thoughts about other people when you’re grieving does not make you a bad person — it makes you a person.

The intensity of grief, for almost everyone, changes over time. It changes in a way that makes living with loss more bearable. For me, what was once constant heart-crushing pain, became something I could carry.

My dad died in 2004 when I was 20 years old, and I believed that the rest of my life would be miserable. I spent nearly 4 years trying to…