Hidden Grief

The ‘shameful’ thoughts the bereaved are reluctant to disclose

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Never in my life had I been so judgemental, and coupled with that judgment was an underlying riptide of rage.

May, 2004, three months after my dad died and around the time I tried to convince my then-boyfriend (now-husband) about my evil ways. Image Credit: Author
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Grief Changes

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My sister (in the Santa hat) made this for me, mocking a gift with a similar message that I gifted our mom many years before. Image credit: Alison Zingaro

It’s not always appropriate to admit that you wish your mom had died instead of your dad…

Hidden Grief Submission. Image credit: Here For You
Hidden Grief Submission. Image Credit: Here For You

Validation

If a friend, loved one or stranger trusts you enough to confesses their hidden grief, it’s almost always most helpful to validate (no matter how absurd you find the confession).

Hidden Grief Submission. Image Credit: Here For You
Hidden Grief submission. Image Credit: Here For You

If you find yourself wondering if you’re 80% evil because of the dark thoughts you’ve started obsessing over since your loved one died, I can assure you, you’re not.

There are millions of us out there just like you.

Navigating sibling & parent loss and trying to change the way people support each other in grief. Founder at www.hereforyou.co

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